So I was out with some friends the other day, and I encountered a social situation that I've never really encountered before. One of the people at this outing is someone that I had previously agreed to go on a date with in the future. On this outing he decided to announce to the group that he and I were going on a date and that he was going to do all these awesome things for me. Borrow an expensive car, roses, yadda yadda. It was uncalled for and I was embarrased. Embarrassed to have my dating life brought up in a group setting, and even more embarrassed at the ego-stroking that went on from the people around him.
"Wow, that's so awesome, I'd be so impressed."
"Girl, you better reciprocate because he's going to a lot of trouble."
"This guy must be Batman, he's awesome."
I mean seriously? I could put this in more 'indelicate' terms, but I think that this gets the point across. He started talking about the future date in front of a bunch of people as a way to 'lay claim' and to have his manliness affirmed by a bunch of younger people who obviously couldn't afford things like this.
It was embarrassing for me, but in a way I'm glad it came up. At least I got a good glimpse at what kind of a person he is. I think what bothered me the most is that everyone thought I should be impressed by this show. Fancy car? Money spent? Whatever. I think it's fine to go to trouble for a date, but to need to have your actions affirmed by everyone else? Talking about it as if I was already taken? Without my permission? No tact and definitely not cool. I hated being put in that situation.
I've got an idea of what I'm going to do about this, but I'm going to keep that to myself for now. One thing that ran through my head clear and strong though, in the midst of my potential future date patting himself on the back was the lyrics to this Shania Twain song, the best of which lyrics I have included below.